How you talk to your children matters: Think before you speak in front of your kids!!!

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While am sure, you must be making sure that you think before you speak in front of your kids, sometimes it happens unconsciously.

Most parents are not aware and they think that the child is busy with something and she is not listening to our talks. The child may be watching TV, reading a book, playing with her friend, or playing with toys.

But what we forget is that a child is very sensitive and observant, and even though consciously she may not hear, some things get unconsciously registered in the mind of a child. It may be positive or negative.

Even simple things like how we talk about our domestic help or staff at home make a difference. Children observe our body language, facial expressions, our tone and our words, and behave the way parents behave. Children see parents as mentors and want to be like them.

In my case, once my husband and I did have an argument in front of my daughter, and I did notice the change in her behavior. She was quiet and looked very concerned.

I knew I had to make up for it. I explained to her how people have different views and this is very temporary. And from then onwards, we have made sure that this is not repeated and especially when my daughter is around.

When parents argue or fight in front of children, it affects the children mentally, physically, emotionally and socially. What we talk becomes their language too.

If we address them with respect, they do the same with us and the other people in the society. As parents, therefore we should always think before you speak in front of your kids if we want to raise them right.

All these characteristics play an important role in the upbringing of a child. As an adult, the child is more positive, with immense self-confidence and self-esteem.

It doesn’t take much effort to up bring a child with positivity, whatever situation you are in. Our language should be positive, and happy.

If your child does not listen to you, don’t get irritated. Handle the situation with a lot of patience. Follow these tips:
  • Saying positive words like ‘You always listen to me’ instead of ‘I know you never listen to me’ makes a lot of difference in how the child behaves.
  • The child perceives and acts in the same manner we talk. Negative words such as ‘no, never, don’t, you can’t, should be avoided while talking to children.
  • When we want children to behave in a particular way or when we want a child to improve, SLEEP TALKING to a child is very beneficial.
  • When a child has just slept off, and her mind is in a subconscious state, we can talk to her. Whatever we talk gets registered in her mind.
  • Always remember to phrase it positively, rather than negatively.
  • Don’t dictate or focus on what you want. Say as if it is true, and in the present tense. I have tried this since the day my daughter was born, and it has worked wonderfully on my relationship with her.
Children are our reflection. All of us definitely wish our children to grow up as respectable adults with acceptance in the society. Let’s do our best to give them the best.

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