3 ways couples experiencing frustration and disappointment can restore hope in their marriages

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A lot of couples are experiencing frustration and disappointment in their marriages.

What’s stopping you from restoring your marriage? Is it pride getting in the way or could it be selfishness? Do you have enough time left to save your marriage or are you opting for a bitter divorce? Are you dealing with infidelity in your marriage or just growing apart? Is it possible to restore your marriage?

When you lose hope in your marriage, ugly emotions, circumstances do set in. Hopeless faith and hopeless marriages are always vulnerable to ruin. Hope motivates us to make positive choices in life and in our marriages. Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain good thing to happen.

The good news is that you can inject hope into your marriage once again by doing the following:

1. Apologize and ask your spouse to forgive you

One of the things that you might need to do is take the focus off what your spouse has been doing wrong to make your marriage a living hell and look inward. It is good that you make a list of all the areas in your marriage where you have fallen short of being the best spouse you could be.

Taking time to reflect on your flaws and not on your spouse’s will allow you to both appreciate your spouse a little bit more and give you a list of things you can improve on. It would be helpful to apologize to your spouse for an offence and ask for his forgiveness.

Do this without expecting anything in return. Don’t expect your spouse to acknowledge any shortcomings. In fact, expect your spouse to be a little suspicious of your intentions. This is normal so don’t be confused or surprised. What you are doing by apologizing is re-opening the heart.

2. Attract Your Spouse

One of the things that most likely happened when you first met your spouse was that you attracted him. You made a conscious effort to think about your spouse on a daily basis. You probably thought about your spouse before making the tiniest decisions. Now you probably barely consider your spouse, regardless of what it is.

Why not go back to how it was when you first started out. Make the choice to purposely do things with the intent of attracting your spouse. Think about what interests your spouse and spend some time exploring and developing those interests.

3. Never Give up on your marriage

The only thing that keeps some marriages together is hope. Hope will stop you from saying those words “I’m leaving”. Hope will keep you from having an affair. Hope will allow you to forgive your spouse. To keep hope alive you must not allow the negative things rule your marriage. Look for the silver lining or the ray of sun on the cloudy days. Even when you are having a rough day, keep your mind and spirit on your goal, a restored marriage. Restoring your marriage is definitely possible. Try to work things out with your spouse.

Please know that the marriage you have now that is frustrating and disappointing doesn’t have to stay that way. Don’t buy into the belief that it’s just the way marriage is or a leopard can’t change his spots. You have the power to get the marriage you so need and desire.

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