Low sex drive is so common, especially after menopause, which it verges on normal: Up to 52% of postmenopausal women experience a lack of desire.

ALSO, READ: How to maintain a healthy and long-lasting sexual relationship.

The easiest thing you can do for your sexual health right now are:

Talk About It

Stress, relationship problems, and depression can quash your sex drive. Building intimacy outside the bedroom may fan the flames between the sheets. Talking specifically about sex—what you like, what you don’t—helps, too, as it can push you past habits that might have been established long ago.

Don’t Stress

Stress hormones like cortisol can kill desire, arousal, and—if you do manage to get your motor going—satisfaction. Mindfulness has been shown to reduce stress and pump up passion. Key techniques include paying close attention to sensations such as breathing, sounds, and your body’s sexual responses.

Sex Therapy

No, you don’t have sex with the therapist. Instead, a trained expert talks with you (and preferably your partner) about your sex life. Homework may entail working on communication, focusing on sensations, watching educational videos, and changing how you and your partner interact.


Some medication, especially anti-depressants, can kill your sex drive. Ask your doctor if lowering your dose or trying drugs, like bupropion (Wellbutrin), is worth a shot.


The physical affects the mental. Discomfort down below can squelch amorous ideas. Choose spur-of-the-moment lubes designed for sex

Hormone therapy

If sexual dysfunction is related to hormonal changes, estrogen delivered via vaginal cream, suppository, or ring can improve lubrication and lessen pain by restoring the condition of the vaginal tissue, without the worrisome side effects that accompany estrogen pills



Throughout history, chocolate has been a symbol of desire. Not just because of its delicious taste, but because of its power to improve sexual pleasure.

According to one study, chocolate promotes the release of phenylethylamine and serotonin into your body. This can produce some aphrodisiac and mood-lifting effects.

According to another study, the effects of chocolate on sexuality are probably more psychological than biological.

A glass of wine

Two glasses of wine might be one too many. Drinking one glass of wine can put you at ease and increase your interest in becoming intimate. But too much alcohol can ruin your ability to perform by affecting erectile function. Too much alcohol can also inhibit your ability to orgasm.


Many food experts prefer to call the tomato, the “apple of love.” Why is the tomato erotic? Two reasons: First of all, the sensation of eating a fresh, fully ripened, crisp, clean, juicy tomato is sexy all on its own. Watching a pair of sexy lips nibble on this fruit (or vegetable, depending on which school you belong to), is enough to make you hungry for other things. Of course, the juicier the tomato, the more chance you’ll have of dribbling on yourself or your partner.but isn’t that what tongues are for? Added bonus: Eating tomatoes is known to aid in sexual performance. They help calm pre-sex nerves, which can be especially helpful in a first-time-partner situation. Furthermore, the tomato is also known for improving muscle control, which can aid in a number of other between-the-sheets efforts, too.

Gingko Biloba

The supplement is used in Chinese medicine to treat depression and sexual function. However, the researchers did not find it to be legit in their study. Although a small trial showed significant improvement in sexual dysfunction among both men and women after using selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) — a kind of antidepressant — a follow-up randomized controlled trial, considered the “gold standard” in evaluating a product’s effectiveness, did not find a significant difference.


This herb has been known to aid erectile dysfunction. Seven comprehensive studies that compared ginseng to a placebo for treating erectile dysfunction found it was quite effective. For menopausal women, Korean red ginseng has been shown to improve sexual arousal.

Ginseng also has estrogenic effects, meaning people with hormone-receptive cancers should not use it.


No matter how healthy you are, being stressed out is going to affect your sex drive. Women are particularly susceptible to the effects stress can have on one’s sex life.

Men, on the other hand, sometimes use sex to relieve stress. And sometimes differences in the approach to sex may cause conflict.

To relieve stress, participate in sports activities or take a yoga class.


The way you feel about your body affects the way you feel about sex. An unhealthy diet and lack of exercise may cause you to have a poor self-image. These things can discourage you from having and enjoying sex.

You can boost your self-esteem and your sex drive by shifting the focus from your flaws to your attributes. You can also focus on the pleasure experienced during sex.

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