Great regular sex reduces (even though it cannot completely stop) the chances of cheating and sexual infidelity. It also improves fertility and chances of having children (which is a major issue for African relationships).
Below are some of the reasons most couples have a poor sex-life
• Low libido or lack of interest in sex (just doing it as a duty or to please the other partner). See this Guide on how to deal with declining libido
• Premature ejaculation, weak erection, lack of orgasms, painful sex, and other sexual problems.
• Withholding sex or depriving a partner of sex for whatever reason e.g as a means of punishment or to get some attention
• Repetitive, predictable, “dry”, non-exciting, non-adventurous sex. SEE THIS, Monday to Friday Romance Guide to Building the Weekend Intimacy.
• Infrequent sex. Like going months without sex and having sex just for procreation (to make babies). It's true — all couples will experience sexual dry-spells. But how long is too long? Find out!
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Sexual intimacy is an important aspect – if not the most important aspect — like the engine-room — of any marital relationship. It functions beyond mere pleasure – it connects at all levels of our being: physical, mental, emotional, and so on. Good sex may not fix a marriage at the brink of divorce, but it can definitely prevent it from getting to that breaking point. It is like a lubricant, an engine-oil, that makes the smooth running of the relationship and makes it easy to manage challenges, overcome differences, and solve problems.
The Way Forward
Don’t just neglect your sex life thinking it is no big deal! Hmmm… my friend, it is a big deal o! I have seen. I have heard. I have worked with many clients and patients – sex is a big deal! Don’t ignore any challenge you are having in the bedroom. Do something about it; because it won’t just go away on its own.
As I always tell my clients in my sex therapy sessions, sex shouldn’t be good – it should be great. Great sex is not repetitive; it is dynamic, adventurous, and evolving. It involves trying out new, fresh ideas to constantly remove boredom and predictability and infuse fun and adventures. There is prolonged foreplay, multiple orgasms, and mutual satisfaction. If this is the habit of your love life, several problems will just dissolve, spontaneously.
And, don’t go around talking about your private lives, with friends, families, and church members. They usually do more harm than good. Instead, talk to a professional – marriage therapist, sex therapist, relationship expert, marriage counselors, and so on. Most religious leaders have little to contribute to the sex aspect of relationships and marriages.
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