Why Couples Should Always Share a Bed

Couple sharing a bed
Did you know that couples exchange more energy by sleeping together than when having sex? Read on and see why couples should always share a bed...

Many couples have different reasons for not sharing the same bed. I know only too well how important getting your sleep is. No drug in the world will make you feel more dazed than lack of sleep. So if your partner snores, you watch different television shows, you have different patterns of sleeping and waking, or perhaps you got mad at each other and have decided to sleep apart, I strongly encourage you to take another look at this choice.

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I believe that the decision to sleep separately can make it more difficult to resolve any issues between you, as well as cause damage to the foundation of the relationship. Without getting too New Age here, I believe we do exchange some kind of energy with the person we are sleeping with, and sometimes it can be quite powerful and wonderful. When you don’t get the chance to experience that, you will feel that something is missing in your love life, though you may not be able to place exactly what it is.

In addition, couples who do not sleep together tend to be less communicative with each other, which can have an effect on the entire family. Children learn about relationships from watching their parents, so one of the greatest gifts you can give them is to be close and loving with each other. Independence is not a bad thing, but it isn’t really what being in a relationship is about. If you want to have a closer relationship, sleep closer to your mate.


Also, some researchers think that sleeping together with your partner may promote health in many ways, such as by lowering the stress hormone cortisol, as well as cytokines that are involved in inflammation.

Sharing a bed with your partner, though, is not always easy. Mismatched sleep patterns can negatively affect how well couples sleep together. The most extreme is when one person is a night owl and the other tends to be an early riser. You can’t change your internal clock by more than an hour, so in this case, it’s important to find a compromise.

This may involve both people going to bed earlier in the evening, with the night owl leaving the bedroom for a while and coming back later. Sleeping with separate blankets, especially if one person is a light sleeper, can help minimize sleep disturbances.

If he or she is not comfortable with the idea of sleeping together in the same bed, then, you need to find out why and work out a way for the two of you to be together on a more consistent basis.

I am not suggesting that you have to stay snug in each other’s arms all night long. Most people cannot sleep that way. But just by sharing a bed and being able to reach over and touch the one you love, you will feel better about your life.

Sharing a bed has its own set of rules. Here are a few essential tips for sharing a bed for the first time:


You Both Love Sleeping on The Same Side Of The Bed.


So, you go to slide into the sheets and you realize you’re heading for the same side.

Studies have found that more than10% of couples argue about which side of the bed to sleep on. That same study revealed that 80% of couples remained on that side through their entire relationship, it’s important to get this right early on. Yes, even on the first night!

Which side of the bed you prefer is influenced by several factors. People with claustrophobic tendencies tend to avoid sleeping next to a wall, then practical considerations such as being closer to a heater, away from the street light, and further away from the noise or being closer to the bathroom especially if you tend it get up through the night. Interestingly, studies show people who sleep on the left side of the bed tend to be happier!

As a rule of thumb, most men like to be closest to the door to feel like he can protect you from intruders.

Whatever your side is, negotiate it on the first night is always a good idea. Keep it playful and light-hearted. According to cognitive-behavioral therapist Paul DePomp, it is possible to retrain your body on your preferred side. A good way to do this is to sleep, upside down a few times to reset.

How To Deal With The War on Space


If you or your partner have slept alone for a long time, chances are you may not be prepared for the extra space to disappear particularly if you’ve had the bliss of sleeping like a starfish.

When sharing a bed, a queen bed with a 60-inch width quickly becomes 30 inches less. If this is a problem for you over time as you spend more nights together it might be time to consider upgrading to a king-size bed it gives you 16 extra inches. It’s a good compromise to ensure your both comfortable.

Think about the pro’s and con’s, of a queen size bed it is good for giving you more space in your room and is perfect for couples that like to cuddle, however, if you’re sleeping with a bed hog the upgrade is always best.

Over time there will be an adjustment phase, and you’ll find your happy medium for space.

What Do If One Of You Is A Blanket Hog?


If you’ve discovered your sharing the bed with someone who rolls up comfortably into a linen cocoon leaving you out in the elements to freeze, or perhaps you are the guilty party there are things you can do.

Turn up the heat, get a hot water bottle or try getting a larger blanket. If you have a sense of humor, go and buy yourself some blanket clamps. They are clamps designed to prevent your partner from stealing the blankets by tightly securing the blankets to your side of the bed.

If all else fails, get two blankets so that you can both have your own individual blankets. Over time sharing the bed will get easier and the blanket problem will likely become a thing of the past. A good way to do this is to make your partner aware of their behavior or be conscious of your own blanket habits, awareness is everything.

What To Do If Your Partner Snores


According to the National Sleep Foundation, 37 million adults suffer from snoring on a regular basis. Snoring is one of the biggest problems that couples face and is both detrimental to the snorer and their partner.

So, what do you do? Apart from getting yourself a really great set of earplugs.

Get to the bottom of the cause of snoring is highly recommended. It will be beneficial to both you and your partner. Snoring normally is a result of congestion, too much alcohol or sleeping on your back.

If you or your partner snore, try a nasal spray to get rid of congestion and or sleeping on your side to help the airways. Cut down on alcohol before bedtime. Over time if the problem persists you can see a specialist, there are remarkable treatments with lasers and other remedies, you’ll both appreciate the peaceful silence and a good night’s sleep.

If you want the first time sharing a bed to be memorable, and be as relaxing as possible you can help ease the nerves and set the mood for romance. Nice music, scented candles, and a little laugher will go along way. Just know that over time you’ll get more, and more comfortable.
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